I chatted with my sister about the situation. She suggested in the future reframing my advice with a question and eliminating the phrase “you should.” If I would have asked my son, “Have you considered texting your friend?” He would have replied, “Yes, I have already texted him three times!” She was right! If my advice was framed as a question, I would have understood the whole situation. My original "you should" advice was not revelant and the whole misunderstanding could have been avoided!
I learned a valuable lesson: ask a question instead of giving a “you should” answer. It might be a challenge for a “fix it” person like me, but today I am offically eliminating "you should" from my vocabulary.
How about you, do you find yourself offering “you should” advice?
How about you, do you find yourself offering “you should” advice?